Teaching Chastity and Virtue

-Teaching and learning should begin early.

“Many children become exposed to sexual content on the Internet as young as 11 years old and some even younger. Entertainment venues, sporting events, advertising, and even social media are increasingly saturated with sexual images and innuendo.

“Some parents rightly ask, “When should I begin talking about sexually related issues?” It depends on the age and maturity of the child and the specific situation. Spiritual guidance will come as parents prayerfully and carefully observe their children’s behavior, intentionally listen to their children, and take time to consider and discern when and what to teach.”

-Teaching and learning should occur often

“Learning is a process rather than a single event. When it comes to teaching children about sexual intimacy or other related matters, people often refer to it as “the talk.” Whether intended or not, this term implies that parents teach this topic in a single conversation. That is not the most effective way for a child to learn.”

-Effective learning and teaching hinges on the relationship between the teacher and learner.

“When it comes to teaching children about sexually related topics, most parents worry almost exclusively about what they should say. While this is important, effective teaching and learning goes well beyond talking and telling about content. In fact, the way parent approach teaching their children may be more important than what they might actually say. Research supports the conclusion that parents who influence their children most when dealing with sexual issues are those who communicate openly, express love and concern, and are actively engaged in the lives of their children.”

-Teaching and learning are most effective when the subject is relevant and real.

“Depending on our approach, teaching about sexual intimacy can feel awkward, unrealistic, impractical, or even preachy. A key to success is to realize that most questions and concerns children have are reactions to real-life situation and observations. As we pay attention to, listen to, and observe our children, we will discern what we need to teach.”

-Learners learn best when they understand what teachers are teaching.

“Rather than speaking in code or even slang, we will have more success if we use correct and appropriate terms. This promotes understanding and cultivates respect.”

-Learners are converted when teachers connect the message with everlasting principles are standards.

“Rather than focusing only on the relevant “facts of life,” effective gospel instruction occurs when we connect those facts with the “facts of eternal life.”

Matthew O. Richardson, Second Counselor in the Sunday School General Presidency, “Teaching Chastity and Virtue,” Ensign, Oct 2012, 20-23.