Thursday, July 30, 2026

Other Bible Translations

 

Seeing Christ in the Bible

From Dating to Sealing

 

Preparing for Eternal Marriage: A Global Invitation to Joy

Preparing for Eternal Marriage: A Global Invitation to Joy

Faith, preparation, and communication make dating, marriage, and family some of the most joyful and sacred parts of our mortal journey.

Elder Kauwe and his wife, Monica

Dating can be complex and sometimes heart-wrenching. But understanding the joy the sealing ordinance will bring makes it worth it all.

“The Family: A Proclamation to the World” states: “The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan.” Every member of the Church should plan for and prepare to make this sacred covenant.

The Truth That Unites Us All

President Dallin H. Oaks has taught, “Marriage is central to the purpose of mortal life and what follows.” Sister Kristen M. Oaks added, “In truth, marriage is a gift. Not only does marriage give us the opportunity for children, but it gives us the opportunity and incentive to begin a journey of growing with one another. We learn to sacrifice and serve as we can in few other ways.”

President Russell M. Nelson (1924–2025) declared, “Marriage brings greater possibilities for happiness than does any other human relationship.”

These are not just encouraging words. They reflect eternal truths about our purpose and the joy possible when we follow God’s plan.

Cultural backgrounds and traditions differ, but one truth remains consistent: Each person is a beloved child of God with a divine destiny. This destiny includes the opportunity to be sealed for time and all eternity to an eternal companion in the house of the Lord.

(If you’re already married, don’t skip the rest of the article. These lessons apply as you continue your courtship and deepen your relationship with your spouse.)

youth in Hawaii

How to Prepare for Marriage and Continued Courtship

President Nelson urged us to “strive to stand for principle instead of popularity” and to prioritize spiritual growth over secular concerns. That includes planning for righteous courtship and covenant marriage.

Preparing for eternal marriage isn’t about setting a date—it’s about becoming a disciple of Jesus Christ who makes and keeps sacred covenants.

Just as Jesus grew “in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man” (Luke 2:52), our preparation should include efforts toward spiritual, social, physical, and intellectual progression.

Sister Oaks counseled: “If you find yourself marking time waiting for a marriage prospect, stop waiting and start preparing. Prepare yourself for life—by education, experience, and planning. Don’t wait for happiness to be thrust upon you. Seek out opportunities for service and learning. And most important, trust in the Lord. … And I promise as you do, happiness will come to you.”

Central to preparation for marriage and complete fidelity in marriage are striving for moral cleanliness and repenting daily. Keeping the Lord’s law of chastity brings additional spiritual power. Freedom from the bonds of sexual sin and pornography allows us to feel the Spirit, build trust, and prepare for an eternal relationship grounded in honesty and respect. If you’ve struggled in this area, know that healing is possible. Through sincere repentance and the power of Jesus Christ, you can be clean, whole, and ready to move forward with peace.

Please remember how very loved you are as a child of God. President Nelson asked you to have this “eternal truth imprinted upon your heart.” Do not dwell on your imperfections. When you elevate the way you honor your covenants and follow Jesus Christ, your physical, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual wellness will be elevated too.

Beginning Basics of Dating

Dating is a sacred and joyful step in preparing for eternal relationships. Let’s make this simple. A date should:

  • Allow the two people to get to know each other.

  • Follow a plan that you share with the other person ahead of time.

  • Be in a safe environment and public area.

  • Include a wholesome activity that allows for comfortable conversation.

  • Have a clear, predetermined endpoint.

In addition, bear in mind:

  • A single date does not mean you are getting married. It does not mean you are exclusive. It means you are getting to know each other as friends with potential.

  • You can learn something from and even enjoy going on a date with someone whom you don’t envision as your eternal partner.

  • That being said, it is very reasonable to go on one date with someone and know very clearly that one date was enough.

  • Dating is not a status update for gossip, speculation, or unkindness. A surefire way to sabotage your future dating prospects is to belittle someone you dated or who asked you on a date.

  • “Most people you meet as a missionary are not currently interested in learning about the Church. Most people you date are not going to marry you. … And that’s okay.”

Something Important to Communicate About: Physical Expressions

Physical expressions of affection or romantic interest that are in harmony with God’s law of chastity, such as holding hands, an embrace, or a kiss, should be preceded by clear communication and affirmative consent. This can be especially true at the end of a date. Here are some basic principles related to consent and respect:

  • Agency is foundational in God’s plan.

  • You cannot build trust where agency is ignored. You cannot claim love where coercion or manipulation exists.

  • Through clear words or actions, a person should indicate permission to engage in physical expressions of affection.

  • The absence of a “no” does not mean “yes,” and consent on one occasion does not mean consent can be assumed from that time forth.

  • Any action that violates another’s agency is a sin. Abuse of any kind—emotional, physical, sexual, spiritual—is a violation of covenants and completely contrary to the teachings of Jesus Christ.

The foundation of healthy dating, marriages, families—all relationships, really—is kind, candid, consistent, and clear communication.

After several dates, you may start to wonder if you are in a relationship. Do not make assumptions about the status or trajectory of your relationship. There is only one way to know this. You have to talk about it!

Say what you mean; don’t assume the other person is filling in the gaps with correct information. They are filling in the gaps but often with the wrong information....

As you date, be thoughtful and intentional. Look for someone who shares your commitment to Jesus Christ and His restored Church, heeds living prophets, honors their covenants, prioritizes temple worship and the sealing ordinance, forgives others, and demonstrates a strong work ethic. Be confident that you can raise children in a Christ-centered family with them. Physical attraction is important; spiritual alignment and shared purpose are paramount....

President Nelson taught, “Harmony in marriage comes only when one esteems the welfare of his or her spouse among the highest of priorities.”

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Oaks BYU Speech at Prophet

 

Coming Closer to Jesus Christ

Dallin H. Oaks

President of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

I share four impressions that will draw us closer to our Savior:

  • First, strengthen our faith in Him.
  • Second, increase our humility.
  • Third, seek help from others.
  • Fourth, be patient.